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Sermon Discussion Guide - 06/15/2025
Published June 15, 2025
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What I Wish I Knew at 20:
Single isn't incomplete
Sermon Recap
This message explores the often-overlooked spiritual value of singleness, emphasizing that it is not a waiting room for marriage but a purposeful and God-ordained season. Drawing from Ecclesiastes 3, Psalm 139, and 1 Corinthians 7, Pastor Dallas reminds us that every life stage—including singleness—is a gift from God, filled with opportunity for growth, service, and intimacy with Him. Our identity is made whole in Christ, not in our relationship status.
Ice Breakers
- If you could live in any season all year long, which one would it be and why?
- If you had to cook every meal in either a microwave or a smoker, which would you choose and why?
- What’s the weirdest or funniest dating advice you’ve ever heard?
Discussion Questions
1. What does it mean that “single isn’t incomplete”?
- Context: Dallas challenged the assumption that singleness is a problem to be solved, reminding us that God created each person whole and valuable, with or without a spouse. Psalm 139:16 reveals God's intentionality in every day of our lives.
- Application: In what ways have you or those around you misunderstood the purpose of singleness? How can we live more fully into God's view of our identity?
2. How can we honor God in the season we're in?
- Context: Referencing Ecclesiastes 3, the sermon explained that every season has purpose - even the ones we wouldn't choose. Seasons of refraining from embracing can be just as sacred as those of connection.
- Application: What opportunities do you have right now, in your current season, to trust God or serve others that might not be available later?
3. What lies do we believe about singleness and self-worth?
- Context: Cultural and even church messages often treat marriage as the ultimate goal. But Scripture and the lives of Paul, Jesus, and others show that wholeness comes from God, not romance.
- Application: What messages about relationships or success have shaped your thinking? How do you remind yourself (or others) that God’s design is enough?
4. How can we use this season to grow spiritually and missionally?
- Context: Dallas encouraged the single members of the church to pursue big, bold opportunities - mission trips, deep spiritual formation, sacrificial giving - without delay or apology.
- Application: Is there a calling or opportunity you've been putting off? What step could you take this week to move toward it?
5. How can married people affirm and uplift singles in the church?
- Context: The message concluded by calling married believers to intentionally include and support single people - not as projects but as equal partners in the body of Christ.
- Application: Whether you're single or married, how can your small group foster a sense of belonging for everyone? Who might need a personal reminder that they are seen and valued?
Prayer
- Pray that we would see every season - especially singleness - as a gift from God.
- Ask for courage to embrace God’s purpose and take bold next steps in this season.
- Give thanks for the wholeness we have in Jesus and pray for a deepening of that identity.
- Encourage the group to pray over individual reflections and support one another’s next steps.
Leader Tip
This week, make space for honest conversations without assumptions. Don’t push anyone toward a next season - help them thrive in the one they’re in. A simple way to support this is by inviting each group member to name one gift or opportunity they see in their current stage of life. This opens the door to encouragement and breaks down quiet isolation. Whether single, married, divorced, or widowed, everyone deserves to be seen and celebrated as whole in Christ.